“We love each other… but I have no idea how clean their apartment is when I’m not around.”
You've survived the honeymoon phase. Maybe you even have a drawer at each other's place. Moving in together feels like the natural next step, until you realize you've never confessed to eating pizza in bed when you’re home alone, much less discussed how you’d handle shared expenses. Ask these 20 questions before signing a lease with your partner. Your future selves will thank you.
If you leave a sock on the floor (or use a bedroom chair as a personal clothing repository), how long before it becomes a problem?
What’s something small your partner does that bothers you? (Talking loudly on the phone, leaving the lights on, or forgetting to pay bills… you’ve probably noticed something by now.)
Let’s talk goblin mode. What do you get into when nobody’s around?
How long do you spend in the shower?
How do you act when you’re sick—independent warrior or Victorian child?
Are you able to peacefully coexist with unfinished tasks, or do they haunt you until they’re done?
How many half-empty water glasses or mugs are currently sitting in your apartment?
Do you usually eat your leftovers, or do they pile up in the fridge until they’re not fit for human consumption?
The “big light” aka ceiling lamp: on or off?
Flash forward: You’ve been living together for six months, and it’s clear that your partner is a massive hair shedder. It’s everywhere… what do you do?
What’s our strategy for getting some alone time when you’re both at home?
What’s something about living on your own that you had to learn the hard way?
What's one habit of mine you'd secretly hope rubs off on you—and one you're hoping doesn't?
If I want to borrow something of yours, like a hairdryer, yoga mat, or a sweatshirt, do I need to ask?
You’ve had a long day. You walk in the door and find five of your partner’s friends hanging out in your living room. Do you grab a snack and join in, tolerate it just to be nice, or immediately retreat to the bedroom?
What’s your credit score? (You’re both going to find out during the application process anyway.)
Do you stock up on things like dish soap, laundry detergent, and body wash, or wait until you run out to buy more?
That pile of Amazon boxes: recycle immediately, or keep “just in case”?
Uh-oh! The last toilet paper roll is down to mere inches. What do you do?
You already know who your partner is when they’re on their best behavior. This is about getting to know them at their most normal. The person who leaves cabinet doors open, forgets the laundry in the washer, or has very strong opinions about the thermostat? That’s your roommate now. Start talking about the small stuff now, and you’ll avoid more uncomfortable conversations down the line.
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